Pamela Ann Handegan (DeWachter), a devoted mother, grandmother, advocate, and friend, passed away surrounded by the love of family and the memories of a life well lived. Born on January 25, 1952, in Monroe, Michigan, Pam was the eldest daughter of Arthur and Elizabeth (Brancheau) DeWachter.

From an early age, Pam possessed a caring spirit and a strong sense of responsibility. She shared a special bond with her grandparents, Victor and Mary DeWachter, frequently spending time at their home on Lavender Street. Whether helping with household chores, sharing meals, or simply enjoying their company, these cherished moments helped shape the compassionate and generous woman she would become.

Pam attended St. Mary Academy in Monroe, where the roots of her lifelong Catholic faith were firmly planted. The values of faith, service, and compassion that she learned during those formative years would remain guiding principles throughout her life.

A firm believer in the importance of education, Pam earned her Bachelor's degree from Eastern Michigan University and later completed a Master's degree in Counseling and Mental Health from Webster University. Her academic achievements reflected both her determination and her desire to make a meaningful difference in the lives of others.

Pam raised her beloved son, Jason Iacoangeli, with John Iacoangeli, her first husband, in Monroe. For many years, they lived across the street from St. Michael's Parish on Front Street, where family, faith, and community played central roles in their lives. During those years, Pam worked in real estate working for Century 21 and sold cosmetics for Clinique at Macys while simultaneously pursuing her college education, demonstrating the remarkable work ethic and perseverance that defined her character.

After Jason graduated from high school, Pam embarked on a new chapter in the South Carolina Lowcountry. She made her home in Mount Pleasant, just across the Cooper River from historic Charleston, and quickly fell in love with the beauty, culture, and charm of coastal life. There, she devoted her career to serving others through the City of Charleston's social service programs, particularly at the Charleston Hope Center, where she tirelessly advocated for individuals and families facing challenges with housing, employment, and mental health. Her compassion, patience, and genuine concern for others left a lasting impact on countless lives.

Pam embraced everything the Lowcountry had to offer. She found peace reading a book on Folly Beach or spending an afternoon at the Citadel Beach House on Isle of Palms. An avid reader and lifelong learner, she possessed an extraordinary curiosity about the world and was rarely without a newspaper, magazine, or book close at hand.

She was also a proud volunteer with The Citadel, The Military College of South Carolina, opening her home to out-of-state cadets who needed a place to relax, enjoy a home-cooked meal, or simply feel the comfort of family while away from home. Her door was always open, and her hospitality knew no bounds.

Pam delighted in the simple pleasures of Lowcountry life. She was a regular at the Moultrie Middle School farmers market, enjoyed buying fresh shrimp directly from the docks at Shem Creek, and cherished evenings spent with friends at oyster roasts. Those fortunate enough to know her remember her quick wit, engaging conversation, infectious laugh, and ability to make everyone feel welcome.

A proud member of the NAACP, Pam was an early advocate for equality, civil rights, and social justice. She believed deeply in the inherent dignity of every individual and built friendships that crossed every social, cultural, and economic boundary. She never judged people by their race, religion, sexuality, or background, but instead by the content of their character and the kindness in their hearts.

Pam's love for animals was evident throughout her life, especially her affection for dogs. She adored her West Highland Terriers, Jack and Scout, along with her Brussels Griffon, Maggie, affectionately nicknamed "El Chapo," and her beloved Miniature Schnauzer, Ava Biscuits, who brought her endless companionship and joy.

After nearly twenty years in South Carolina, Pam returned home to Monroe to be closer to family. It was there that she fully embraced one of the roles she treasured most—being a grandmother. She was immensely proud of her grandchildren, Rowen, Dru, and Cortland Iacoangeli, and cherished every opportunity to spend time with them. Whether attending movies, sharing family dinners, celebrating holidays, or simply enjoying everyday moments together, her grandchildren were among her greatest joys.

Of all the family traditions she loved, Halloween held a special place in her heart. She delighted in taking her grandchildren trick-or-treating, visiting haunted houses, and creating memories filled with laughter, excitement, and love—memories they will carry with them forever.

Pam is preceded in death by her parents and her nephew Christopher Siterlet. Pam is survived by her son, Jason Iacoangeli (Darcie Day); her sister, Cynthia DeWachter; her niece, Ashley Siterlet; her cherished grandchildren, Rowen, Dru, and Cortland Iacoangeli; and many extended family members and dear friends whose lives were enriched by her presence.

Pam will be remembered for her unwavering faith, her dedication to serving others, her intelligence and strength, her commitment to justice and equality, and above all, her boundless love for family and friends. Her compassion touched countless lives, and her legacy of kindness, generosity, and acceptance will continue to inspire all who were fortunate enough to know her.

Though she is no longer with us in body, her spirit lives on in the hearts of those she loved and in the many lives she touched along the way.

In accordance with Pam’s wishes, cremation has taken place and memorial services will be held at Bacarella Funeral Home, 1201 South Telegraph Road, Monroe, MI 48161 on Thursday, July 23, 2026, with visitation beginning at 4 P.M. until the time of the funeral at 6:00 P.M.. Deacon Michael Stewart will officiate.